What Unequally Yoked Really Means

Back on my divorce diaries, I wanted to talk about love again. That’s the vision I have for this site. Falling in love again after a failed love, after falling out of love, and perhaps maybe you had a time of singleness. I know I did. I still am single. But what if you fall in love again? And what if to be happy and really to be able to express love on earth is possible? And I believe it’s a mission that we should never give up on. 

I really thank my mom for that. I believe she showed me in her relationships that love was something that was worthy of being pursued. That settling for less than love was not the way. And you can do that. I did that, but it didn’t pan out to be anything of significance as far as our actual marital relationship goes. I’m not talking about the fruit that was produced within the marriage. That’s excellent. But the combination of our emotional, our soul, was never existent and consistent. That’s the hindrance when you’re not with someone who’s soulically, if that’s a word, with you. 

Someone needs to be on your same level, and that’s where this scripture comes from, do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. In 2 Corinthians chapter 6, verse 14, it says, Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers, for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness, and what communion hath light with darkness. This is what was happening in my marriage. We were unequally yoked. What I believed was obviously not what he believed. I’m not saying he didn’t believe in Jesus Christ or not. I know he was Catholic. There are some Catholics who actually believe, yes, Jesus Christ is the Lord. 

However, my relationship with God is one that has been pursued since I was a child and is ongoing and is very strong. And so having a partner who is not interested in pursuing God the way that I do, just was not wise. In the long run, you want to be on the same level as your mate, your partner, your husband, your wife, your baby daddy, your baby mama. You need to be on their level so that you can relate with them and grow with them. 

There are opportunities where you can marry someone who’s higher in a certain point spiritually, financially or another area. Even if you’re not there with your mate yet, you desire to be there. So that would still be equally yoked, but you both really want the same thing. It’s not that, you know, oh, I know this much Bible and you know that much Bible. That’s not what I’m saying. No. You equally desire the Lord. That’s equally yoked. 

But if someone desires football over the Lord, and you desire the Lord over football, can you see how that might not work? And I’m giving you an example from my own failed marriage. So, God bless. Thank you for listening to my divorce diaries. 

Love and peace, Shirah Chante, Relationship Artist

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