What Exactly Do You Mean By Companion

So thinking back on a question I asked my ex-husband before we got married about his vision for marriage, and he told me he wanted a companion, and I instantly thought that I could totally fulfill that role or that desire. A companion, I mean, what’s that? Like a friend, right? Like a buddy, someone to hang out with and to do things with and live life with. I thought, ah, easy, easy peasy. No questions, nothing, just the honest desire to please the man I am going to marry. And so, I didn’t quite end up being the companion I believe he desired. 

Later on in the marriage, as time went on, that companion status, that vision that he had for me started to dwindle little by little as we in the marriage, other things started to happen and to separate the love that we initially shared for one another as we drifted away from God and from the first intentions we had to stay connected with our faith. More about this next time.

Now, what I really want to say is, I could have asked him a little bit more about what does that look like. I assumed what a companion would be based on my idea of a companion. I could have prodded him and asked him more about the companionship he desired in his wife. 

So that is something I believe that when you’re dating, when you’re with your man, your mate, your husband, your partner, your baby daddy, the person you are intimately involved with, ask more about what he means when he says something and don’t just assume you know. Spark up some conversation and impress him with your desire to know exactly what he means. These are my divorce diaries. I’ll be back with more. 

God bless, Shirah Chante, Relationship Artist

P.S. Read the first divorce diary where I talk about my marriage vision. I even created a Marriage Vision Map for you to start afresh with a vision for your marriage.